Triggers and Trauma: What’s The Connection?

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Hey there, What is the relationship between emotional triggers and trauma? The first thing we must understand is that even after separating yourself from a stressful situation or person, you’re still going to get triggered. This is because emotions are stored in the body. They don’t just magically disappear once … Read more

5 Reasons Christians Should Be Saying Biblical Declarations Every Day

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Biblical declarations, also called biblical confessions or proclamations, are a powerful form of prayer. What are biblical declarations? They are simply taking what God has said in the Bible and making a statement out of them in the first person.  This is how Bill Johnson, lead pastor at Bethel Church, explained … Read more

What Are The 5 Es of Narcissism?

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I’ve had many people ask me how they can determine whether or not they’re dealing with a narcissist. As narcissists tend to play by the same handbook, here are clues that can help you identify if the toxic person in your life is showing signs of narcissism. What are the … Read more

Object Constancy & Narcissistic Defense Mechanisms Explained

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Object constancy is a term taken from Psychodynamic Theory, which explains the ability of a healthy person to view another person in an integrated light as someone who possesses both good and bad qualities. It is the ability to view someone, whom you know and love, in a favorable manner … Read more

What Is An Existing Ideology Of Resentment?

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Have you heard the term “an existing ideology of resentment?” You may not have heard the term, but if you’re living with a narcissist, you are most certainly living it. It goes something like this: If someone has already decided to hate you, NO MATTER what you say or do, … Read more

Emotional Abuse IS Physical Abuse

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I often hear people comparing the effects of emotional abuse to that of physical abuse. In reality, emotional and physical abuse are just two sides of the same coin. Keep reading to find out why emotional abuse IS physical abuse. People with personality disorders use intimidation and manipulation to control … Read more

How Do We Come To An Understanding Of Suffering?

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How do we come to an understanding of suffering without defaulting to the trite response “This must be God’s will?” Below are a few thoughts I heard Richard Rohr, a Franciscan friar, say about this weighty topic. When asked to what degree God is involved in suffering, Rohr answered that, … Read more

What Is The Difference Between A Narcissist & A Sociopath?

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What is the difference between a sociopath and a narcissist? The sinister coldness of sociopathy is thought to arise from congenital deficits in the area of the brain that houses emotional input, and one’s ability to interact in a normal way with others. Compare this anatomical abnormality to the lack … Read more

Will Living With A Narcissist Ever Get Easier?

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I hear the following question a lot in my business: “Will living with a narcissist ever get easier?” The short and succinct answer is “No!” And not only will it not get better, it will undoubtedly, get worse. People with personality disorders are unstable, erratic, unpredictable, and incapable of regulating … Read more

Stop Wasting Your Time On People Who Aren’t Worth It

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In today’s email, I’d like to share some powerful words by Anthony Hopkins where he makes the admonition to stop wasting your time on people who aren’t worth it. He goes on to say: ′′Let go of the people who are not prepared to love you. This is the hardest … Read more

Ending A Relationship Is NOT Easy

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Ending a relationship, and moving on with your life, is not easy. It takes a lot of courage and fortitude to move away from the familiar into uncharted territory. I’ve found that reframing helps… Instead of viewing the situation as losing something, think about it in terms of what you’ll … Read more

Spiritual Warfare 101 [What To Do When The Devil Attacks]

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The demonic realm is real. Even if many today don’t want to acknowledge that fact, or talk about it, the truth remains. This truth is clearly demonstrated throughout the Bible. In this post, about spiritual warfare 101, I’ll be listing the weapons of warfare talked about in Ephesians 6, and … Read more

Praise God For The Warriors In Our Lives

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I read this story today and wanted to share. I hope you enjoy it as much as I have. Praise God for the warriors in our lives who help rescue us from the sticky messes life throws our way. “My dad has bees. Today I went to his house and … Read more

How Does God View Narcissism?

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How does God view narcissism? Can narcissists be forgiven if they don’t feel guilt? What is a seared conscience? Here’s my take on it: Narcissists feel guilt. Mine did. At least in the beginning. This was until he chose to suffocate his internal compass. The operative word here is “chose.” … Read more

How To Be HAPPY Alone On Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day can be a tough day for many reasons. It can be unusually taxing if you’re dealing with a narcissist. Follow these tips on how to be happy alone on Valentine’s Day. If you’re in a toxic relationship, you’ve had to learn how to live in a minefield and … Read more

Freedom From Trauma & Abuse [How To Become Unbroken]

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In today’s post, I’ll be talking about how to obtain freedom from trauma and abuse, how to be healed, set free and delivered from the wounds that have shattered your soul. In essence, you’ll learn how to become unbroken. Freedom From Trauma Trauma is the broader definition of what is … Read more

Are You Carrying Heavy Burdens That Make Your Arms Ache?

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In today’s post, I want to address the topic of stress. We all feel it, don’t we? The stresses and annoyances of everyday living. It’s just part of being alive and living on this planet. The thing about stress, though, is we can reduce its effects by changing how we … Read more

How To Communicate With A Man Who Doesn’t Hear You!

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How To Communicate With A Man Who Doesn’t Hear You! Have you ever wondered how to communicate with a man who doesn’t hear you? Here’s an explanation on why narcissists react in such an unreasonable manner. Narcissists react inappropriately because an event, a word, or a look was triggering in … Read more

Discerning The Jezebel Spirit

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Discerning The Jezebel Spirit The following is an except from an article by Reverend Marie Berbick of Touching Your World Ministries where she underscores the importance of discerning the Jezebel spirit and how to deal with it. “Unfortunately, many Christians are unaware of the most dangerous form of spiritual destruction, … Read more

Tender Warrior: When Men Get It Right Everybody Wins

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Tender Warrior: When Men Get It Right Everybody Wins “When men get it right in their walk with God, everybody wins, and when men get it wrong everybody pays a price.” This quote is taken from Stu Weber’s beloved book “Tender Warrior: Every Man’s Purpose, Every Woman’s Dream, Every Child’s … Read more

Does God Give Us More Than We Can Handle?

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Does God Give Us More Than We Can Handle? Does God give us more than we can handle? I know we’ve heard that He doesn’t, but did you know that that sentiment is not actually biblical in the way most of us understand it. Just look at people who are … Read more

How To Deal With TOXIC People During The Holidays

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How To Deal With TOXIC People During The Holidays The holidays are a special time of year as we celebrate our Savior’s birth. Unfortunately, Christmas can be a mixed bag of emotions for many people as they deal with relationships that are less than healthy. I’m sure many of you … Read more

Necessary Endings & New Beginnings (My First Christmas Alone)

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Necessary Endings & New Beginnings [My First Christmas Alone] It’s been a year… That’s the understatement if there ever was one. Last year marked the end of my marriage, and along with it, the end of an era. My divorce was finalized last April, I sold my house of 17 … Read more

The Narcissist Stare & What It Means

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The Narcissist Stare & What It Means Toxic people are experts at subtly controlling those they’re closest to. One such method of control is the narcissistic stare, which is meant to communicate ridicule, hatred, and contempt. Sounds super creepy, right? It is. Keep reading to find out why… The Narcissistic … Read more

What Does Fawning Mean? [Are You Guilty Of This?

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What Does Fawning Mean? [Are You Guilty Of This?] What does “fawning” mean? Fawning is one of the four types of responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) caused by trauma, notably childhood trauma. This can include physical, emotional, verbal, and sexual abuse. These learned responses often carry over into adulthood, influencing … Read more

What Is Soaking Prayer & Why You Should Make Time For It

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What Is Soaking Prayer & Why You Should Make Time For It What is soaking prayer? Simply put, it’s setting aside time for intimacy with God, with the purpose of experiencing His manifested presence. You don’t have to worry about if you’re doing it right. There are no rules. Neither … Read more

Trauma and Brain Function [3 Ways Abuse Damages The Brain]

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Trauma and Brain Function [3 Ways Abuse Damages The Brain] Have you ever wondered how PTSD, phobias, obsessions, hyper-vigilance, pervasive trust issues, addictions, and eating disorders develop? You’ll better understand how these conditions arise by recognizing the connection between trauma and brain function. Here are 3 ways chronic abuse can … Read more

Why Seeking Closure With A Narcissist Is Totally Pointless

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Why Seeking Closure With A Narcissist Is Totally Pointless It’s normal to want closure when ending a relationship. However, closure with a narcissist isn’t going to happen. Don’t waste your precious time looking for answers to all your “why” questions. Why this? Why that? It’s a dead end road with … Read more

What Drives Narcissistic Devaluation & Dismissal?

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What Drives Narcissistic Devaluation & Dismissal? Narcissists use psychological compensatory mechanisms to protect their fragile sense of self. They use these stances to compensate for something that is missing, namely, a core sense of self. Let’s unpack what drives narcissistic devaluation. Narcissists lack a core sense of self. Instead, they … Read more

Hydrogen Peroxide Bath Therapy [Healing For Body & Soul]

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Hydrogen Peroxide Bath Therapy [Healing For Body & Soul] Soaking in a tub with relaxing music and essentials oils is amazing for reducing stress hormones, for realigning perspective, and for rejuvenating both mentally and emotionally. However, you may as well bring out the big guns while you’re at it, and … Read more

Progress and Goals Are Soooo Much Better Than Feeling Stuck

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Progress and Goals Are Soooo Much Better Than Feeling Stuck I’m still basking in the relief of being divorced and out of my house. Relief is such a wonderful, life-giving emotion. I highly recommend it. However, to say I was utterly spent and exhausted for days after moving is an … Read more

Personality Disorders and Altered Perception

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Personality Disorders and Altered Perception Here’s an interesting fact about Cluster B personality disorders and why the perceptions of people suffering with these disorders is so off kilter. Normal people depend on their eyes to give them feedback about the world around them. They see something and their brains process … Read more

What Does Betrayal Feel Like?

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What Does Betrayal Feel Like? Betrayal hurts. It changes who you are. The way you look at yourself, others and the world is forever altered. What does betrayal feel like? A betrayal wound is an excruciating, overwhelming and unrelenting pain that takes a long time to heal. Betrayal is an … Read more

Moving on After Divorce

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Moving on After Divorce Well, I’m officially out of my house and moving on after divorce. It was a grueling, 5-month process that I thought would never end. Two of the offers fell through as we were nearing the closing date. To say I was terrorized is an understatement. Having … Read more

Cold Hard Facts About Covert Abuse

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Cold Hard Facts About Covert Abuse Here are some cold hard facts about covert abuse. This type of abuse flies under the radar, often getting swept under the rug as the dirty little family secret. The abuse happens in plain sight, while the abuser sits there with an evil smirk … Read more

3 Subtle Signs You’re Being Manipulated & Abused

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3 Subtle Signs You’re Being Manipulated & Abused Covert abuse can be subtle and not overtly apparent in many cases. Following are 3 not-so-obvious signs you’re being manipulated. This abuse can happen within a marriage, with siblings, parents or friends, in the workplace, and sadly, even in religious environments. Signs … Read more

3 Benefits of Turning Inward When Life is Tough

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3 Benefits of Turning Inward When Life is Tough Here’s the thing about trials – they can teach us a lot about ourselves. Coming out of a long-term marriage, that turned extremely toxic the last 7 years, I took the time to turn inward and examine all areas of my … Read more

Are You Living With A Narcissist?

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Are You Living With A Narcissist? Many women are in marriages with narcissists but don’t realize it. Why is this? Is it possible to be in a relationship with someone who has a personality disorder and not know it. YES – this is because narcissistic abuse is subtle and covert, … Read more

Relationships and Health: 5 Ways Abuse Will Hijack Your Heart & Health

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There is a direct correlation between the nature of our relationships and our physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Research into relationships and health has demonstrated repeatedly that supportive relationships can strengthen immunity, whereas toxic unions inhibit it. Loving connections are associated with longevity, quicker recovery from health challenges, a robust … Read more

Happiness And Health [Could This Be The Missing Link?]

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Is happiness a missing component in your journey to health? You try so hard to do everything right . You eat a healthy diet, exercise, take your supplements, and get enough sleep –  but you’re still not where you want to be in regard to your health. Is there a … Read more

How To Become More Self Aware [Take The Self Awareness Quiz]

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Self-awareness is the capacity to examine and sit with your own thoughts and feelings, to see yourself as a unique individual separate from your surroundings. Introspection, self-reflection, and observation are all components of self-awareness. This ability to see yourself plays into your health and well-being. Keep reading to learn how … Read more

How To Believe In Yourself Again After Failure Knocked You Down

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Life is tough. The inevitable twists and turns, adversities and challenges can sometimes be too much. It’s easy to second guess yourself and your abilities. If you’ve been hit particularly hard with a recent failure or devastation, your self-concept may have taken what seems to be a fatal blow. Your … Read more

5 Ways To Make Self-Care A Priority & UPGRADE Your Life

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Is self-care on your radar or are you in survival mode? Many of us today can barely find the time to pay the bills and feed the kids, let alone take time to nourish ourselves both physically and emotionally. When did we get so busy and frazzled that our own … Read more

How To Heal A Broken Heart & Set Yourself FREE! [20 Tips]

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Forgiveness. It’s a big topic, and one most of us don’t talk about. We’d rather keep our anger. This has been me at times. Did you know that forgiveness is a gift you give yourself because it has more to do with you than the person you’re forgiving.  Releasing negative … Read more

Why The Ketogenic Diet For Dummies WORKS & Works FAST!

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Everybody’s talking about the Ketogenic diet and with good reason. It’s no secret that obesity and inflammatory diseases have reached epidemic proportions. In this post, I’ll try and simplify (hence the name, “The Ketogenic Diet for Dummies”) the ins and outs of why this way of eating is beneficial, the … Read more

The Best Broccoli Salad Recipe EVER

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Summer’s here and that means pool parties, lazy days at the lake, weekend barbecues or just leisurely hanging with friends. What’s a party without food? Stay tuned for the best broccoli salad recipe, which is the perfect addition for any occasion. It’s chock full of crisp, antioxidant-rich goodness, and the … Read more

Painful Bladder Syndrome – Facts About Interstitial Cystitis

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Interstitial cystitis, also called painful bladder syndrome, is a challenging condition that can impact all facets of a person’s life. An inflammatory disease of the bladder, it causes urinary urgency and frequency, along with ulceration and bleeding of the lining of the bladder. which can lead to scarring and stiffening. … Read more

S. Boulardii Benefits [The HEALTHY Yeast]

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Saccharomyces boulardii is a powerful probiotic used to treat, and even prevent, many conditions of the gastrointestinal tract. It’s one of the few probiotics that isn’t destroyed by antibiotics, aiding in maintaining healthy gut flora during and after antibiotic use. S. boulardii benefits include: it’s inexpensive unlike many probiotics, it’s … Read more

What Is The Insulin Index? [A Tool For Permanent Weight Loss]

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Who isn’t looking to drop a few pounds? We all want to be leaner and look better in our clothes. There’s good news – the insulin index is a great tool to help you achieve your ideal weight. Learn how it differs from the glycemic index, and how to use … Read more

The AMAZING & Versatile Health Benefits of Medicinal Mushrooms

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Mushrooms grow from the mycelium, or vegetative portion, of fungi. These magical fungi regenerate growth, decompose malignancies, and have anti-viral, anti-bacterial, and anti-tumor properties. Keep reading to learn about the many health benefits of medicinal mushrooms. This article will highlight 5 types of mushrooms. Disclaimer: “This post contains affiliate links. … Read more

5 Ways To Strengthen The Vagus Nerve For BETTER Health

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The vagus nerve, also called the wandering nerve, is the 10th cranial nerve originating at the base of the brain and culminating in the gut. It is a pair of nerves that runs down both sides of the neck, circling around the digestive tract, liver, heart, spleen, lungs and pancreas. … Read more

How To Balance Hormones NATURALLY With Diet & Exercise

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Ooooh, the hot topic that we all love or hate – hormones. What are they and what can we do to keep them balanced? For starters, being on top of your liver function is one key way to improve endocrine function. Learn how to balance hormones naturally to look better, … Read more

Lean Optimizer: The Weight Loss Supplement That Optimizes Hormones

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Today I’m writing this review on a popular weight loss supplement, Dr. Sam Robbin’s Lean Optimizer. This product has been a number-one bestseller since 1999. If you’re looking to lose a few pounds, this supplement may be for you.  Is Lean Optimizer just one of many weight-loss fads on the … Read more

What Do Amygdalin, Laetrile, B17 & Raw Apricot Seeds Have In Common?

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Amygdalin, laetrile, B17, and raw apricot seeds – what’s the difference? Are they the same? Laetrile has been used holistically for cancer since the 1950s. Does it cure cancer? No, but it does fight the disease by targeting malignant cells. It also fortifies the immune system, which is an essential … Read more

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